Teaching Series

Forgiveness – Dealing With Pain

Forgiveness – Dealing With Pain

Message Scripture;  Revelation 21:1-5, KJV

And I saw a new heaven and a new earth: for the first heaven and the first earth were passed away; and there was no more sea.

And I John saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down from God out of heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband.

And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God.

And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.

And he that sat upon the throne said, Behold, I make all things new. And he said unto me, Write: for these words are true and faithful.


Greetings Christlike Ministries NWA Family, and welcome to the new 7 message series on Forgiveness.

Dr. John Tonsend and Dr. Henry Cloud offer insights from a biblical perspective on the topic of forgiveness. Each day of this 7 day plan will help bring you closer to God and the emotional growth He desires for you.
We would like to thank Dr. John Tonsend, Dr. Henry Cloud and Zondervan for providing this plan. For more information, please visit: http://bibl.es/YV9780310948957rp7day

I am excited to get back to doing what the Lord has anointed me to do, and it’s good to get back to writing good, solid messages.

Before we get into this series I would just like to quickly acknowledge the Lord, and ask Him to help me.

Father God, I thank You for Your Word. I thank You for this NOW series on Forgiveness. Lord, we need to learn more about this because Your Word says that we will be forgiven by You the way we forgive. So, with something this important…we want to know how You forgive so that we can forgive that way.

I ask that You would make my fingers as that as a pen of a ready writer…writing only of the oracles of You. I ask that You would anoint my fingers to write with clarity, boldness, and the utterance that comes from the supernatural ability of the Holy Ghost.

I pray for my readers, Lord. I pray that You would heal the wounds, comfort the afflicted, and touch every heart that’s broken in ways that only You can. I ask, Lord God, for ears to hear and hearts that will be receptive and respond to what You are about to speak to us through this series…and this message here today.

I ask that You would forgive us of all iniquities, and remove all hindrances that would keep us from hearing Your voice. I ask all of this in the precious and mighty name of Jesus. Amen & Amen

Today’s Message – Dealing With Pain

One of the things that is universal no matter who you are, what you believe, or what tax bracket you belong in…every single one of us has something that causes us pain…and we know that I’m not talking about physical pain. I’m talking about things that have not just wounded our hearts…but somewhere deep within our souls. It’s one thing to hurt us physically, it’s one thing to hurt our feelings, but the pain I’m talking about here is deeper.  It’s that hurt in our hearts we feel whenever we hear that certain song. It’s that hurt that comes from gathering around the dinner table to be reminded that there’s an empty chair that was filled by someone we said goodbye to.

I’m talking about deep emotional wounds that are like those we have where they heal, and something happens to peel the scab back only to expose the wound again.

My friend, this is the hurt God wants to deal with in this message. He isn’t interested in the superficial wounds (of course He wants to heal those too), but this is talking about those wounds that Jesus spoke about in Luke 4:18 as He spoke of “healing the broken-hearted, and those that are bruised”.

The quotes in this message from here on out will be from Dr. John Tonsend and Dr. Henry Cloud, and it’s time for us to get into the first one.

Our tears and pain were never part of God’s original plan for us, nor will they be part of eternity. However, we live in a sort of parenthesis in the timeline of the universe, a “present age” (see Mark 10:30) between the garden (see Genesis 2:8) and the new heaven and new earth (see Revelation 21:1). – Dr. John Tonsend and Dr. Henry Cloud

Did you know that it was never God’s plan for us to hurt and feel pain and be broken?  Did you know that He never wanted us to experience the heartache and grief that we experience today? God never wanted us to experience the hurt we do today, but that was all part of the fall that took place from Adam’s disobedience.

Let me just stop here for a moment to say don’t think for even one moment that your choices are insignificant…I’ll bet that Adam and Eve never thought one bite of the fruit from the one tree God said not to eat from would lead to all that it has led to. Jesus never saw any of us as insignificant as He went to the Cross. Everyone of us is significant, and as I mentioned the other day while you may not think our choices have a significant impact…I’m sure Adam and Eve never imagined the impact that one bite of fruit, one-act of disobedience could have…but here we are in 2014 still suffering the consequences of a fallen world all because two people would rather have a bit of the one tree they were told not to eat from in the midst of the garden full of trees they could eat from.

No one is insignificant to Jesus, and if you take nothing else away from this series…take from it the fact that God loves you with a love that is far beyond any love we’ve ever experienced, and you are so valuable that God laid His life down in the form of Jesus to prove it.

At the end of time, God will wipe away every tear (see Revelation 21:4). We will not experience this suffering forever. But during these present times, we see the results of sin’s contamination of the world: death, mourning and pain. We fail and let ourselves and others down. Others do the same. Instead of denying these negative aspects of our present life, we need to accept and deal with them in preparation for the time when God ends all the suffering. – Dr. John Tonsend and Dr. Henry Cloud

At the end of time, God will wipe away our tears, and the pains of life will finally be completely healed.  Until then, however, we’re left to deal with them, and we have a few choices as to how we’ll deal with our hurts don’t we?

One of the things God has had me say in many messages is that He’s not responsible for everything that happens in the world today. He didn’t give you that form of incurable cancer. He didn’t take that loved one too soon. He didn’t allow someone who was evil to rise to power while you are struggling to make ends meet paycheck to paycheck.

Friends, one of the hardest of all truths in this world to grasp is that some times stuff just happens. Life just happens, and there’s always two responses we can have. Either we can give them all to God, or we can try to deal with them on our own. We can allow Him to give us the wisdom to handle every situation and circumstance that comes our way…or we can try to use our own experience to try to handle them without making them worse.

Pain is sadly just a part of life. I like what’s said here: “But during these present times, we see the results of sin’s contamination of the world; death, mourning, and pain.”

I spoke earlier of the pain that God is wanting to deal with is the deep hurts that have wounded our hearts…and for some of us they’ve hurt us so deep it’s left wounds in our soul. The kind of wounds that we (yes…even I ) have shaken our fists at God to ask how He could allow this to happen to us.  It may be the kind of wounds that have caused you to turn your back on God, it may be the kind of wounds that have kept you from turning to God, but I want you to know that God hasn’t gone anywhere…and He wants to take those hurts, those wounds, and those burdens that you have carried around…some of you for decades…and bring a healing to your heart that you’ve never experienced before…but in order to receive that healing you are going to have to do a few things.

Let’s see what they are…and then we’ll talk about them.

The Bible teaches us three keys that can help: forgiveness (see Ephesians 4:32), grief (see James 4:9) and healing (see Psalm 30:2). We must arm ourselves with these three things. They will help us grow, recover and move past the difficult times. – Dr. John Tonsend and Dr. Henry Cloud

First of all, (as we’re talking about here) we have to forgive. We have to forgive those who have hurt us, we have to forgive ourselves if it’s hurt we’ve caused ourselves, and we have to forgive God and ask Him to forgive us for blaming Him.  Sometimes, friends, life just happens…and while God’s aware of what happens in our lives…it’s not always brought to our life by Him. So, we have to learn to let things go. If we’re going to be able to display the love of Christ we have to understand that part of that love is taking no record of wrongs done unto it (see 1 Corinthians 13:4-7). We can’t hold on to bitterness, we can’t hold on to offense, and we cannot harbor unforgiveness…because the Bible is very clear that God will forgive us in the same manner in which we forgive others.

Secondly, we have to understand that it’s okay to grieve. We also have to allow people who are hurting to grieve, and stop talking to them like they have no faith. We have to learn to extend grace, mercy, and love to one another. Grief is a part of the process of overcoming the hurts. One of the most powerful verses in the Bible is the shortest. “Jesus wept”. Jesus grieved over the death of His friend Lazarus. The Bible says that God is touched with the infirmities that we are touched with. That includes grief…and in case you didn’t know Jesus also grieves when we grieve…and I don’t know about anyone else…but I can personally testify that I have felt His arms around me during some of those times where I was overcome with grief.

Finally, we have to understand where our healing comes from, and that the only One that can heal us…completely is Jesus. Our healing in our bodies, minds, hearts, and all is found in the stripes upon Jesus’ body. His body was broken to heal the broken parts within us no matter what those wounds are…His stripes are for our healing, and I pray over all of us that all of our wounds physical, mental, and emotional would be healed…In Jesus’ name. AMEN!

The good news is that the pain is not the end of the story. God will give us current healing and future paradise. Our job is to be involved in the journey with him. – Dr. John Tonsend and Dr. Henry Cloud

Oh, friends, the hurt and pain that we feel isn’t the end of the story, but the beginning. I’ve written many times that some times we have to reach a place of brokenness that’s beyond our abilities to handle so that we’ll see the only healing for our hurt is found at the end of ourselves, and it begins at the Cross.

Our job is to lay our hurts and pain at the Cross, and trust the Lord for the healing to flow from His blood into our lives. We don’t have to live with hurt and pain until Jesus comes back…we can lay it at His feet right now today…but the key is we have to leave it there. We have to talk to Him every time the pain increases in it’s intensity, and we have to trust Him to bind up those wounds and heal the broken places in our hearts and souls.

We have to know and truly believe that the journey isn’t ours to walk alone. We have to learn that it’s okay to hurt and grieve, and it’s okay to reach out. We have to learn to be people who the hurting and grieving can reach out to. We have to become that beacon of light to a lost, hurting, and broken world.

How many of you know we can’t do that if we won’t allow God to heal us? I know, Lord do I know, how hard it is to lay down those hurts, and leave them at the Cross. I know how hard it is to humble myself to reach out to someone to say “I’m hurting, and I need prayer.” It’s not a sign of weakness…it’s a sign of surrender…and it’s a sign that we understand where our help and healing comes from.

Let’s Pray:

Father, I pray for the hurting, the grieving, the broken-hearted who are reading this with pain, hurt, grief, and sadness in their hearts. Lord, I don’t know all of their hurts, all of their stories, but You do. You are aware of the hurt in every life that’s reading this message today, and I pray that all who read this message will be touched by YOU today, Lord. I pray that every one would know Your touch in a way they have never known, and in a way that they would know without a doubt it’s You touching them. I pray You would wrap Your loving arms around every member of the Christlike Ministries NWA Family, and touch the wounds, touch the hearts, and heal them. I speak healing to the broken hearts, I speak healing to the wounds of their spirits, and I speak that peace that only comes from You into their lives. I thank You that You took the stripes upon Your back not just to heal our physical hurts…but all of them. Father in the name of Jesus I pray that we would all be changed, transformed, and healed this very moment. I thank You for the testimonies of those You are healing, I thank You for the testimonies that are going to come because You are touching the hearts and lives of people right now. I thank You in advance for good reports, and for leading us to this series to talk about forgiveness. Help us to forgive others, help us to forgive You, and help us to forgive ourselves. I pray that guilt, condemnation, and grieve would fall OFF of us…and be replaced by healing, grace, mercy, and the love of God that’s shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost. In Jesus name. Amen & Amen

In Closing:

Thank you for joining me on this first message on Forgiveness. I pray that God would speak to us through this series, and ask the Holy Ghost to sink these messages deep into our hearts. May we come through each message in this series changed, transformed, and a little more conformed to the image of His Son.

Have a blessed day!

Blessings & Grace;

Bryan Kizer – Pastor

Christlike Ministries NWA