Teaching Series

I Don’t Want To Live Anymore: “You Are Valued”

You Are Valued

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This series has been one of the hardest ones for me to write about.  I guess part of the reason for that is because I understand the feelings behind this series…because I’ve been there.  So, here’s the next message in this series.

I’m not going to spend a lot of time on the introduction…I think we all know what this series is about, and now it’s about making sure we know what God thinks about this subject…and how He wants to help people to overcome thinking that their lives aren’t important…because each and every life is not only important…but valuable to God…and so today…that’s what we’re going to be talking about…you are valuable.

Believe with me that the Holy Ghost will speak clearly and boldly with compassion through this message…and that hearts will be receptive and responsive…Amen!?!

Today’s Message: “ You Are Valued”

Do you ever feel like you’re not worth much anymore? Like you’re damaged goods?

As with the previous messages, these are questions that I have the experience of answering “yes” to, and I can certainly admit today that the number one thing I struggle with is that I can still get to feeling like I’m damaged goods.

If you ask anyone who has tried to pay me a compliment…they will all tell you that it’s something that is extremely difficult for me to accept.  Whether it’s a compliment about something I’m wearing that looks nice, or a compliment on a well written message…I usually will deflect that compliment saying that it’s just okay or not that bad or that it’s only by the grace of God that I am able to write these messages.

The truth is, more often than not, I do seem to think that I’m damaged goods.  I know that God loves me, and I know that I am valuable to Him…and I think this later part of these questions comes with being older…and looking back at a life knowing that if you would’ve made some better choices…things may have turned out a whole lot better.

Let’s face it.  I am a twice convicted felon, I was ousted from the Marine Corps for being less than honorable, and there’s so much that I did over the decade and a half or so that I can’t help but to look back and even knowing God like I do…think of myself as damaged goods.

Can I be honest with you for a moment about something…this is why I understand the phrase “those who have been forgiven of much…love much”.  This very thing is why I will never…ever stand in judgment of anyone else’s life…because my personal history is just as worthy of God judging my life, throwing me into hell, and He would be completely justified in doing so.  If you were to look at the life I lived before I came to know Christ…and even some of the things I did after I came to know Him…there’s plenty of “Christian” who would try to tell me that God’s grace and the blood of Jesus weren’t good enough to cover and cleanse and forgive me…but they would be wrong.

You see, the thing that has helped me to overcome the thoughts of being damaged goods is the fact that there isn’t one things that I’ve done that Jesus didn’t die for and cleanse with His blood.  When I read about the ministry of reconciliation, and I truly began to understand that God was no longer counting what I did and what I do against me because He judged all of my sin on the Cross in the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus…and so when He looks at me He doesn’t’ see who I was…He sees who He has made me through His Son…and He also sees a work in progress.

Today, I still tend to think of myself as damaged goods, but it’s that thought as I said that keeps me from getting some kind of religious big head and keeps me from looking at your life and judging it…because I have been forgiven of much…and therefore I have no right to judge what you have done or think that you should be sentenced to hell…because the truth is HELL IS WHERE I BELONG BUT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD.

The truth is, God did love me so much that He sent His only begotten Son because He knew that one day I would call upon the name of the Lord and be saved.  He had a destiny set for me before I even entered into the world, and here’s an even deeper truth…if I had succeeded in taking my life…I would not be here writing these messages, I would not be touching over 1,000 people in over 100 nations with these messages, and while I may have missed out on a lot of hurt…I would have also missed out on coming to understand that the abundant life Jesus spoke of in John 10:10 isn’t about stuff, but about having an abundance of the stuff that money cannot buy.

So, yes, at one time I hated myself, I hated life, and I wanted out.  I never thought of myself as valuable to anyone, and I even wondered about my value to God when He didn’t answer my prayers asking Him to take me home…every time I woke up after praying that I thought that my value was even less…even God didn’t want me…but that’s not true…He wants all of us to spend eternity with Him…but He doesn’t want us to get there before He calls us home…and let me also dispel this myth that just because someone is successful in committing suicide that’s a believer they will die and go to hell.

Listen.  If you’re a believing child of the Most High God…if you’re a whosoever that’s called upon the name of the Lord…then you are saved and whether you die when God calls you home, you die in a car accident, or you die because you purposely took your life…that doesn’t change your eternal destination…it just means you went home to be with Jesus sooner than you were supposed to.  Suicide is not some kind of unpardonable sin…it’s certainly not something God wants us to do…but it’s not going to send us to hell.

Now, on with the message…

The Bible couldn’t be more clear about how valued you are in the eyes of God! No matter what other people may think or say, God intentionally made each and every part of you as His masterpiece.

Every single one of us is a masterpiece.  God is the Master Artist.  No matter what happens…there is no flaws in anyone God creates.  It doesn’t matter if you have deformities…God made them…and if He made them…then they are perfect.  If we come into the world with disabilities it’s because God wants to make know the magnificence of His abilities to heal or to use whatever disabilities you may have for His glorification.

There isn’t anyone on earth that God isn’t fully satisfied in the way He created you because there is not error in Him, and therefore there is no error in you.  He is perfect, and therefore everyone that He creates…everyone that He knits together in a mother’s womb is perfectly knitted together according to His desires, His designs, and His plans…and the truth is you are fearfully and wonderfully made by the loving hands of God…and to make sure every one of us knew just how valuable we are to Him…He sent His Son to make sure that we would have fellowship with Him all the days of our lives both here and on the other side of eternity.

God intentionally made each and every part of you AS HIS MASTERPIECE.  You ARE a modern art masterpiece made by the greatest Artist there ever was or will be…Amen!?!

In God’s eyes, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. He carefully crafted you while you were still in your mother’s womb, and He created you in His own image. He loves you as His own child, and even knows how many hairs you have on your head!

Friends, God knows each and every one of us in such an intimate way that no one ever will.  Think about it.  Think about that couple that’s been married 50 plus years.  Think about how intimately they know one another, and the fact that intimacy still pales in comparison to the intimacy in which we are known by our Creator.  He knows exactly how many hairs we have on our head (and in my case how many have fallen out).  He knows our lives from beginning to end…and all points in between.  There isn’t one thing the God doesn’t already know about us…including whatever situation you’re in that has you thinking you’re life just isn’t valuable enough to anyone to go on living.

Your life is valuable enough to God.  He sees and knows all about your situation, and I truly believe that whatever the situation is He wants to use it for His glory.  He wants you to give your situation, your feelings, your thoughts, the hurt…whatever it is He wants it…He wants to take it from you, but you have to give it to Him.  He’s not going to forcefully take it from you…you have to willingly lay it down before Him.

Listen, God loves you so much that He died to prove it.  He died upon the Cross so that you would know how much He loves you.  He loves you so much that He would rather die to save you then for you to live in eternity without Him.  You are so valuable to Him that He gave His life to prove it…and therefore we all owe it to Him to give our lives back to Him…but taking our lives isn’t at all what He wants for or from us.  So, before you make that decision to end your life…I would like to encourage you to ask God for help.

Look. I’m not going to lie to you as say that life is all of a sudden going to roll back the clouds and everything is going to be sunshine and rainbows.  Life on life’s terms is hard.  There’s so much that has happened in the nearly 40 years of my life.  Many of the wounds in my soul are self-inflicted because I chose to do things by my wisdom and understanding.  Many wounds are because others hurt me, but then again a lot of those wounds were because I did things again that lead to hurt that was again self-inflicted. Sure, there are lots of wounds that weren’t self inflicted, but Jesus shed His blood and had His body broken to heal every wound…and that’s not limited to physical wounds.

He came to heal the broken-hearted, to set at liberty those who are held captive, and to set the prisoner free.  Many of us become imprisoned by the hurt in our lives, and therefore those are some of the wounds that Jesus came to heal.  If your heart is broken…Jesus wants to heal it, but again you have to ask Him to heal it…and you also have to understand that healing isn’t going to happen over night.

Friends, it has taken years for God to heal much of the hurt in my heart…and the truth is…He is still healing it.  There’s lots and lots of hurt in my heart from over the years in my life that God is still healing, and that’s just me being real and honest.  I’m real and honest with you about this stuff because if I’m not I cannot help anyone.

I feel a need once again to tell you that if you’re going to judge me for the things I’m writing in this series you are welcome to unfollow me. I am not going to apologize for one thing I’ve written…because it’s not for you.  If you’re offended because I’m speaking honestly about my life’s experiences…then the problem isn’t in my heart…it’s in yours…and you need to deal with the pride and judgmental spirit in your life. I am not going to change what I write because it offends you…I’d much rather offend you then to grieve the Holy Ghost by refusing to write what He anoints me to write.  So, if you don’t like it…talk to Him about it…and tell Him that He shouldn’t have me write about such difficult things because it’s not Biblical…and see what He tells you.  I’m pretty sure He is going to tell you the same thing He said to those people who brought the woman they caught in the act of adultery to Him to be stoned.

Listen, if you want to throw stones at me because I’m willing to peel back the curtain and allow my life to be on display so that maybe it touches someone…and helps them to understand that if God can bring me out of what He brought me out of…He can do it for them and for you.  If you want to be offended and unfollow me because of this…then feel free…but know that every one of you who does will not be able to come back…because I block every person who unfollows my ministry.  So, just know that when you leave…I love you and am sorry to see you go…but I’m not going to change what I write to keep you from leaving…especially when I know the Holy Ghost has anointed what I’m writing…and so I think this is the last time I’m going to write this disclaimer…I am not writing to be popular…I’m writing because I’m being obedient to what God is calling ME to do…perhaps if you would spend more time being more obedient to God you wouldn’t get so offended by someone following God’s plan…and get busy doing what He’s called you to do.

Back to the message…

Jesus tells us that not even a bird can fall from the sky without God knowing and caring for it. If He cares that much for a bird, can you imagine how much He must know and care for you, whom He created as His masterpiece? You are valued!

Listen to me.  If God knows when a bird falls to the ground, if God knows when an ant dies, if He knows the names of the stars and when one of those burns out…then He is not only aware of what you’re going through…but He is right there with you.  After all, while God was pleased with all of the things He created…the one He loves the most…is you.

You are not only not alone, you are not only loved beyond what any human is capable of loving you, but you are far more valuable that any of the things God created.  You are a masterpiece created by the Master Artist…and He will move the earth to do what He can to help you…but the thing of it is…you have to invite Him to help you.

Look, I know that it’s not easy.  I know that it’s hard to believe that you are of any value to God or that He can take and use your life for any good…but He can…and He will…and He does.

I am living proof of that…literally.  Believe me, admitting that I can identify with this series isn’t something I’m saying just to pretend I know what my readers have experienced or how they feel.  The world can spot fake…and fortunately for me…everything I have said from my personal life’s experience…is authentic and real.

Do you want proof that you’re valuable to God?  You’re the very person I’m writing this series for…because God wants you to know that He loves you…and that you’re valuable to Him.

Let’s Pray:

God, thank You for creating me in Your image. Please help me always remember that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, and that I am valued so deeply in Your eyes. When I start to think that I’m worthless or just taking up space, please remind me of the fact that I am Your perfect creation. In the name of Jesus I pray, amen.

In Closing:

There isn’t one person that was placed here by mistake.  There isn’t one life that’s insignificant or can’t be used to bring God glory.  I am literally living proof that God can take a life that was destined for no where, and be turned around to be used for the glory of God.

You see, friends, Romans 8:28 isn’t just a good verse…it’s the story of my life…and if you’ll let God take control…it can become the story of yours too.

As always, I promised to always conclude these messages with resources so that you can either get help for yourself or for someone you may know who is contemplating suicide.  As we know from the statistics…there’s at least a 60% chance you know a high school student who needs these resources…SO MAKE SURE THEY GET THEM.

Call and talk with someone who’s ready to listen 24/7: 1-800-273-8255 (USA only)

Log on to Church Online at http://live.lifechurch.tv and click the Live Prayer button under the video to chat and pray one-on-one with someone who cares.

For outside the USA, find resources in your area: click here.

Reach out to a Church Online volunteer to pray with you via email: click here.

Thanks for continuing to follow along with such a difficult topic.  I know it’s hard, but I never write a message that isn’t anointed by God…and the fact that I’m writing this series…is evidence that God’s heart is breaking over those who feel their lives aren’t worth living…He wants you to know that you’re life isn’t just worth living, but that it can be used for His glory…won’t you seek Him today!?!

Blessings & Grace to you.

Pastor Bryan J. Kizer

Christlike Ministries NWA

“My love be with you all in Christ Jesus.” (1 Corinthians 16:24)

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